Love Too Hard

Have you ever been told you “love too hard”? Or maybe you’ve heard someone proudly say, “I just love hard.”

It sounds romantic, right? But let’s look closer at what usually happens to people who love that way.

They overgive. They lose themselves in relationships.

They rearrange their lives around another person: scheduling their days, thoughts, and emotions based on someone else’s presence.

Their hobbies fade. Their spark fades. They forget what makes them feel alive.

They even forget to nurture other relationships with friends, family, and most importantly, the relationship with themselves.

And when the relationship ends, they’re left empty, confused about who they are without that person.

Because their identity was built around giving, not being.

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Loving hard sounds passionate, but it’s not healthy. You shouldn’t love hard. You should love healthy.

Energetically, loving too hard usually means you’re loving from lack. You’re seeking completion outside yourself.

That needy energy doesn’t attract stability; it attracts lessons. Painful ones. The kind that pushes you to come home to yourself.

The universe isn’t asking you to revolve around someone else’s orbit.

It gave you your life to live, your energy to nurture, your purpose to grow into.

So keep your heart open, but keep your center intact.

Love deeply but stay rooted in yourself.

Because healthy love doesn’t drain you. Healthy love doesn’t require you to lose yourself. It expands you.